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I tell myself stories. I’ve told myself so many that it’s often hard to single out my truth from an old narrative I’ve repeated for too long. Sadly the stories on repeat have almost exclusively been about how I’m unlovable, not worthy or simply not enough. Some of you are thinking how unoriginal it is to feel that, yet too many will relate. These are not the words I was taught by my parents, loved ones or by people whos opinions actually matter to me. I’ve told myself these things because some boy cheated, countless ghosted – hell one guy abandoned me days after a traumatic event. Online they saw my photos but not once did they see ME and too many couldn’t include me in their life and I made the horrible realization they didn’t like me *enough*.
**What a fucked up narrative**
Or is it? What if I spun it? What if I told myself I’M WORTH MORE. I’m MORE than somebody to text at 1:15am. I DO NOT TOLERATE behavior that makes me feel less than. I AM ENOUGH. If you can’t see my value, *please leave*. What if between the cracks of heartbreak I was speaking these words with my actions? Maybe the whispered voices of my own empowerment were stronger than the pained cries that were audibly loud, but small and ineffective. What if the universe was doing for me what I could not do for myself by moving the pieces out of the way. Maybe this joy I feel today was something I curated for myself, not for anyone else to take or judge. What if I wasn’t the victim of my own life? What if I forgave not just you, but me, too? What if choosing myself wasn’t selfish? What if I healed? What if I could love me?
Today is a day that would normally cause me to be bitter and resentful because while so many are with a partner, I won’t be… but y’know, this year I think I’ll choose to pick a shiny, new narrative. If you at all related to what I said, I hope you find the courage in you to change the story you’re telling yourself, too. It’s an ugly place but only you can reimagine it. Heal.